Falling Through the Cracks
4 October, 2018
Four years ago, Jonathon was comfortable. Then his life turned upside down. He recounts an incredible journey of heartbreak, despair and, ultimately, hope.
Itâs 2am. Cold and dark.
Jonathan lies awake, shivering. The abandoned factory Jonathon and his three young boys call their home is not peaceful and quiet. Next door, an industrial laundry roars to life, disturbing whatever restless sleep the family was having.
Jonathon never pictured himself homeless. Never imagined begging for food. How did it come to this?
The most alarming thing is how quickly everything turned upside down. It took just six weeks for Jonathon to go from living a normal life to having nothing. First an injury, then a loss of work, and finally a vindictive housemate who sold all his possessions from under him while he was overseas. When he returned, he was homeless â a broken man.
âIt didnât even cross my mind that it could happen,â Jonathon says. âTo go from having a normal lifestyle with a good income, savings and a roof over my head, to the unthinkable⊠in the space of six weeks. That was all it took, from being normal to being invisible.
âLiving in the warehouse was cold and lonely in winter, and hot and lonely in summer. It was really, really horrible,â Jonathon says.
âAs a parent and a father it was rather brutal not being able to provide my kids with a proper house and basic things they needed. It was very depressing, which didnât help anybodyâs mental state. I found myself withdrawing more and more into myself and not wanting to interact with people.â
Jonathon remembers vividly the shame and embarrassment from that painful period. He remembers drifting between different soup kitchens and service providers with his kids. Mostly he remembers the feeling of worthlessness and loss of dignity.
âItâs important to have dignity because when youâve got nothing, even your dignity starts to disappear because youâve got to beg for food or rummage through garbage just to find food to survive. That gets really depressing â people look down on you or they donât acknowledge you at all, they donât smile at you.
âYou just disappear, you just fall into the cracks and disappear. We felt worthless. A feeling that we didnât matter, nobody cared.â
It was when he almost reached the brink that a turning point came. Jonathon calls it a miracle.
âWe were given a piece of paper with the Vive CafĂ© address on it.â
Heâd heard about Vive CafĂ© â a community in Melbourneâs eastern suburbs run by ADRA. As well as offering a hot three-course meal, guests could access grocery items sourced through Foodbank and SecondBite. But most of all, the friendly smiles and meaningful conversations with people who actually cared.
âIt was an inkling of some hope that we might be able to get some food there, and some conversation and a bit of help,â he says.
Straight away, Jonathon says he and the boys started to feel noticed and appreciated. âThat alone was worth more than any other thing that could be provided. That feeling that youâre a person and you matter, which we hadnât experienced at any other outreach place that weâd attended before.â
He says Vive CafĂ© had âa general atmosphere of wellbeing and just a nice place to come. Even just for one night a week it made people feel human again, that they mattered.
âIt gave people back some dignity.â
Now back on his feet, Jonathon still turns up every Thursday night. Why? âTo give back some of the help we received.â
Last year, Jonathon was baptised, and he also volunteers once a week managing an ADRA Op Shop.
Jonathonâs story highlights the mostly hidden issue of homelessness in Australia, the so-called âlucky countryâ.
âAustralia is the lucky country if youâve got money. If youâre living below the poverty level, itâs not lucky, itâs very hard to survive. If you donât live in that world, you donât know of its existence.â
His challenge? Do something. Anything.
âIf every person did just a tiny bit to help, we could end homelessness and poverty in Australia very quickly. It would be great if Vive wasnât there in future, purely because it wasnât needed.â
Your support during the ADRA Appeal in October helps people like Jonathon to thrive.Â
Words: Josh Dye
Photo: Luke Vodell